Tuesday, July 26, 2016

When Life Gets Too Hard

There's a common saying that "God won't give you more than you can handle." I find that such a sad lie. When a parent's child dies, when a person is starving with no roof over their head, when depression hits too hard, this statement can feel like a person is being told to "get a hold of" themselves, despite the good intentions behind it. But God will be your strength when the hard times come, and with Him we can endure unspeakable pain and suffering--not because of our strength, but because of Him working in us.

Today, my special guest, Tamera Kraft, shares a word with us. Be encouraged!

But first! I have the privilege of announcing the winner of our Mother's Day Giveaway! Congratulations go to Barb Peterson! I'll be contacting you soon to get your mailing address. 


Does God Give Us More than We Can Handle?
by Tamera Lynn Kraft

I’ve heard the saying many times. God never gives us more than we can handle. But that’s only partially true. Here’s the verse it comes from.

1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

It says in the verse that God won’t give you a temptation you can’t handle. But trials and difficulties are another matter. He promises we will have difficulties and lots of them. Some of them will be harder than we can handle on our own.

Before I knew this, I used to get mad at God. I didn’t understand why He allowed things to come into my life that were beyond me. Then I learned this simple truth. There are reasons God gives us more than we can handle.

If He didn’t give us more than we can handle, we wouldn’t know how much we need Him. We wouldn’t be on our knees crying out to the only One who can help us through our difficulties. Jesus Christ is the only One who can speak to the wind and waves in our lives and command them to be still. That’s good news because I get in trouble when I think I can manage without Him.

The other reason is to grow our faith and perseverance. The book of James tells us that trials are a good thing. They strengthen us spiritually. When an athlete trains, he works at stretching his limits so he can get stronger. He puts a little more on himself than he can easily handle. It’s the same spiritually. God allows us to stretch ourselves spiritually by putting more on us than we can easily handle so that our faith can grow. When I look over my life, I find there are things I can manage easily now that would have thrown me years ago.

In my novella, Resurrection of Hope, Vivian went through some storms she thought she couldn’t handle. Her fiancé died in the Great War. The same year, her entire family died from the influenza pandemic, and she was evicted from her home because of her father’s gambling debts. Through it all, she found the only way she could handle the things life threw at her was to put her hope and trust in God.

God will put more on us than we can handle, but we can always trust in Him to help us through it.


She thought he was her knight in shining armor, but will a marriage of convenience prove her wrong?

After Vivian’s fiancé dies in the Great War, she thinks her life is over. But Henry, her fiancé’s best friend, comes to the rescue offering a marriage of convenience. He claims he promised his friend he would take care of her. She grows to love him, but she knows it will never work because he never shows any love for her.

Henry adores Vivian and has pledged to take care of her, but he won’t risk their friendship by letting her know. She’s still in love with the man who died in the Great War. He won’t risk heartache by revealing his true emotions.

Resurrection of Hope is available at Desert Breeze PublishingAmazon eBookAmazon PaperbackBarnes and Noble, and All Romance eBooks


Tamera Lynn Kraft has always loved adventures. She loves to write historical fiction set in the United States because there are so many stories in American history. There are strong elements of faith, romance, suspense and adventure in her stories. She has received 2nd place in the NOCW contest, 3rd place TARA writer’s contest, and is a finalist in the Frasier Writing Contest and has other novellas in print. She’s been married for 37 years to the love of her life, Rick, and has two married adult children and two grandchildren.

You can contact Tamera online on her website, http://tameralynnkraft.net, and on the Word Sharpeners Blog, Facebook, and Twitter.

Let's talk about this. When facing a tough time, has anyone told you, "God won't give you more than you can handle?" If so, how'd that make you feel? Looking back on some of your more difficult times, can you see the truth in Tamera's post? Can you see how those times brought you closer to Him or strengthened you emotionally and spiritually? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below, because we can all learn from and encourage one another. 

Additional resources you may find helpful:
Thinking Right When Things Go Wrong
How To Deal With Unemployment
Why Would an All-knowing God Test Us

Aaaaaand, before you go, an introduction. To my (Jennifer's) alter ego. As some of you know, I write more emotionally intense novels--about the homeless, orphans, single moms with insanely busy and unpredictable careers. And I still will, under my real name. BUT, I also want to write fun! Without confusing you all regarding genre. (In other words, I want you to know what to expect when you purchase one of my novels.) For this reason, I decided to launch a pen name. Meet her HERE!

1 comment:

  1. yes its true sometimes we are just so disapppinted but we still need to be strong we just cant giveup..and those olympic players yes they all are truly hardworkers.