When I married Ron in 1968, he attended the Church of Christ twice on Sunday and Wednesday. Though baptized at age thirteen, little did I know he’d never really sought a relationship with Jesus. By early 1974, disillusioned, I filed.
While legally divorced six months—we re-married on our 6th wedding anniversary June 22, 1974—we only lived apart two of those. Shortly after the second nuptials, he met, received, believed, and confessed Jesus as his personal Lord.
Since then, I can’t say it’s been all beautiful with birdies singing and perpetual sun shining—I don't believe marriage ever is—but this I've learned... don't talk to him (your husband) about your concerns of how he acts, talk to Him (your Father) about them.
In a wife's desperation to have her husband be more like Christ, more like he should be (in her humble opinion), she gets in God's way of dealing with him. When I finally GOT this, I was amazed to sit back and see the improvements God made in him...literally. Ron changed so drastically before my eyes…like a miracle!
So that's my advice, dear ladies...only talk to God about it and then trust Him. He can and will deal with your husband in His perfect time. Though ninety-eight percent of any asked would have said "Ron's wrong", God actually wanted ME to learn His lesson and change my attitudes to be more like Jesus.
I told Him it wasn't fair, too! More than once in our many conversations regarding the man I have truly loved with my whole heart. But once I surrendered and said, "Fine! I want to do it Your way. Please, help me." He moved mightily on my behalf!
I have a husband now who is more like Christ than any man I've ever known. He isn't perfect, but getting so close! Next month, we will have been together fifty years as we’ve both turned sixty-six. We've never loved each other more.
Recently, when a nurse wheeled me out of the hospital and heard we've been together since age sixteen, she said, "I was listening to y'all, and you can just hear how much you respect and love each other. How much fun y'all have." Ron and I hold hands even riding in the car or walking into Walmart. We are each other's bestie!
If you’re struggling precious wife, I encourage you to hang in there and resist those lies from that ol’ wiley devil out to destroy your marriage and steal your joy. YOU do what God instructs in His Word. No matter what he's doing, do not leave your husband…black and white in the Word...even temporarily.
Submit yourself to him AS UNTO THE LORD.
Rejoice IN THE LORD always! You may not be able to rejoice in your husband at all times, but Christ is always worthy of praise and rejoicing! You get to CHOOSE how you feel. Make up your mind to be full of joy and thankful to God! I love you! :)
Get up and go to church if Hubby isn't against it. If he is, then stay home. I know the Word says forsake not the gathering...but you won't be...your heart IS TO GATHER with them, but you're being submissive as unto the Lord like the good wife you are!
Believe me, "YOU" cannot be your husband's Holy Spirit. It isn't your job. You're only responsible to do what God says for YOU to do. Right there's worth being thankful and rejoicing!
No one can steal your joy though that’s exactly what the devil is out to do. It’s possible he may be manipulating your husband in his efforts, but only you decide if you will be full of joy (NO MATTER WHAT) or if you give into depression and throw yourself a big pity party. It's your choice.
Turn away from death, curses, and depression which are not of God. Then YOU will be happy and bright and cheerful no matter what's going on all around you.